tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post1603041613855694506..comments2023-11-02T08:19:33.962-07:00Comments on Thriving Reality: Blaming the VictimKristen Skedgellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06509248930351727695noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-7341550677762420192011-06-09T18:28:58.016-07:002011-06-09T18:28:58.016-07:00The end of my first response to this blog post wil...The end of my first response to this blog post will come into play again, after my oldest son passed away early Sunday morning. I feel his doctor did all he could, and will say so to him. <br /><br />I can't honstly say that I will never sue anyone under any circumstances, but it seems obvious our world is full to the brim with blame, so much so that we could drown in it.Billynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-66182944700495695582009-07-26T17:48:51.454-07:002009-07-26T17:48:51.454-07:00Bob, As one who had the evils of mind control and ...Bob, As one who had the evils of mind control and cults shoved down my throat in a deprogramming years ago, I am very sensitive to people doing that, even without considering whether they are right or wrong. Unlike many other books and articles about The Way, Kristen doesn't do that in her book; she simply tells what happened to her. It was really the only way she could have convinced me; though recognizing several things she gives account of (I was also in Indiana and in the 8th corps) didn't hurt.Billynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-21027031033811889582009-07-26T16:09:32.371-07:002009-07-26T16:09:32.371-07:00I took PFAL in 1976 and left the ministry in 1990....I took PFAL in 1976 and left the ministry in 1990. I was not abused, did not feel like I was under mind control and am thankful for what I learned. I became a Christian in The Way.<br /><br />Others, and I know many personally, were abused by many of the leaders in a number of ways, including sexually, and I am disappointed to say that Dr. Wierwille was one of them. I don't know for sure where he went wrong.<br /><br />I haven't read the book but I have read The Cult that Snapped.<br /><br />My spiritual life has thrived since leaving the ministry. I have participated in many miracles of healing and give glory to God for them. In addition I recently earned a Bible Theology degree and am close to a Masters in Biblical Studies from Liberty University. <br /><br />So, unlike others, I am thankful for what The Way taught me for the most part although I don't agree with everything. But then, I don't agree with everything from any group or denomination. I read the Word and decide for myself, something Dr. Wierwille taught us.<br /><br />I'm not sure but I might buy the book...I do like to keep up with things about former Way people.<br /><br />God blessBob Hammondnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-40808228882988924912009-07-05T19:01:24.003-07:002009-07-05T19:01:24.003-07:00Hi Kristen,
I was in the way for 10 years, Indiana...Hi Kristen,<br />I was in the way for 10 years, Indiana and Florida. I went wow in 1986 however, left the field. I was told to go and if I didnt my marriage wouldnt last. I went, during that time, my dad died. I was then told let the dead bury the dead and that my ommittment to the wow field was greater. I was married with two children. I went to the funeral and never returned to the field and instead went to another state. Picked up again but thats another long post. I read your book and am thankful for it. After all these years Im still dealing with the whole of it. I plan on getting some help but wnated to let you know your book helps. Ms. Clark. P.S.( By the way my marriage didnt survive.)I was possessed and all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-47898644366824273812009-06-26T21:49:00.716-07:002009-06-26T21:49:00.716-07:00so there ARE people who "escaped" the Wa...so there ARE people who "escaped" the Way... I had my life turned topsy turvy by them. Not that I got sucked in but that the woman I had lived with for seven years did... and that ended <i>us.</i> We were a good pair too... I was stepdad to her daughter for all those years, providing a stability she (the daughter) hadn't had.<br /><br />Good luck on your writing career!Allan Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07515827714318809893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-21826276638300487912009-05-13T05:32:00.000-07:002009-05-13T05:32:00.000-07:00Haven't seen you around, Kristen, how are things.
...Haven't seen you around, Kristen, how are things.<br /><br />I read Losing The Way again recently, actually the third time, as well as finally sent to my eldest daughter to read. <br /><br />I have truly enjoyed it every time, related to it. <br /><br />Shellon NorthShellonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04171524880363372499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-7066826489652716242009-02-07T03:58:00.000-08:002009-02-07T03:58:00.000-08:00thanks, Billy. I always appreciate your comments,...thanks, Billy. I always appreciate your comments, this one especially.Kristen Skedgellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06509248930351727695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4803233417008181456.post-55813662738627803312009-02-07T00:35:00.000-08:002009-02-07T00:35:00.000-08:00I suppose doctors face the same problem at times; ...I suppose doctors face the same problem at times; "What can we learn?" without "Who do we blame?" I don't have the magic formula on how to do the first without the second. But I know it can't mean numbing your own hurt at someone else's hurts. If you're in a helping profession and you don't hurt when someone is hurt or lost, you are in the wrong profession.If you didn't "run through the gamut of emotions", you would be included. There is a big difference between hurt and blame. But I can't pretend to say it is easy to seprate the two. Or, to say it simply. you're job ain't easy.<BR/><BR/>You're right; the devil spirit answer is the easy one. That way you can absolve yourself or someone else of blame without feeling the hurt. But if you have no feeling for someone's hurt, you have no motivation to help him/her or to help anyone else.<BR/><BR/>I remember when my mother died in 1994; my older sister made it clear to our mom's long time doctor that she knew he did all he could. I concurred.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com